CHILD CUSTODY AND
CHILD CUSTODY AND
YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS A DIVORCED PARENT
DIVORCE IS HARD ON CHILDREN
Divorce is hard on children. You will want to do all you can to help them deal with it. This includes choice of schools, doctors, sports, living conditions, social relationships and so on. Your choice of schools for your children is especially important. School teachers and administrators are, like it or not, a major force in your children’s life and development. You know how time consuming and complicated and sometimes anxious your relationships with educators can be.
This is all multiplied if your child is special needs, handicapped or disabled.
THE DIVORCED PARENT AND THEIR CHILDREN’S SCHOOL
The point is that you have to establish healthy relationships with your children’s school, no matter what the legal and physical custody arrangements are in your divorce and afterwards. You as a divorced parent are still a parent. You are responsible for maintaining and developing a relationship with your children and those around them. You can’t depend on the other parent to do this for you – after all, you did get divorced. Disagreements and differences over the children’s caregivers – schools, sitters, doctors, therapists, support groups, hockey and other sports – are bound to occur.
These responsibilities on you as a parent of divorce can also be a source of joy for you and your child.
We know of one Minnesota elementary school where the staff helped the parents and the students form a “friend of…” student club for one special needs child of divorced parents. The “Friends” helped the child keep on the right side of coolness, helped him pick up on social cues, helped him defend himself from bullies and so on.
JOINT CUSTODY AND SOLE CUSTODY
Your divorce decree may not establish joint legal custody (where parents have equal say in decisions about your children). But except in very limited circumstances you still have a right to get school and medical information. But it is YOUR responsibility to obtain this information. You should not be asking the other parent to act as the intermediary between you and the school or the medical providers.
Thank you for your attention.
Moore Family Law, P.A.