There a few red flags that you should look out for whether you’re dating or married to someone. These warning signs are major deal breakers and should be taken under consideration when you’re assessing whether you want to stay in a relationship.
The flags that we’re referring to are not small issues such as bad manners, or a lack of fashion sense, we’re talking about big issues that can be incredibly destructive. Without further ado, here are three red flags that everyone should watch out for when you’re in a relationship.
First, would be that the person is overly controlling. This person would want to control what you wear, where you go, what you eat, and more. This type of behavior isn’t the type where the person you’re with has preferences about what they believe you look best in, or making sure you’re eating healthy. This behavior extends past that to wanting to control how you live your
life, and leaves you with no say in how your life looks.
The second is emotional abuse. This is the behavior that doesn’t leave a physical mark, and can therefore be brushed under the rug as not as big of an issue as someone who physically abuses you. Make no mistake, emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse.
Emotional abuse can range from criticizing how you look, blaming you for things beyond your control, to making choices for you by manipulating the way you think. When your involved in an emotionally abusive relationship it can sometimes be hard to see the signs. The most important thing is to listen to your friends and family, and truly listen if they bring up concerns. They can
often see things that you can’t.
Finally, aggression and physical abuse. We are lumping these two together because most people will agree that physical abuse is never ok, but often people don’t recognize that aggression can be equally as harmful as physical abuse. The level of aggression we are referring to isn’t the anger that’s caused by something that many people would be angry about such as cheating, lying, betrayal…etc. This level of aggression is brought on by even the smallest of slights.
This type of aggression can be seen if food isn’t the right temperature, if you didn’t react to something in a way they thought you should, or even if an inanimate object isn’t where they think it should be.
The most important thing to do is to assess your relationship and make sure that you are in a safe, loving, and caring relationship. Everyone has moments where they aren’t the best versions of themselves, but moments like that should be few and far between. Make sure you know the signs and how to identify them. We want everyone to be safe.
If you or someone you know needs help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE(7233).